Diplomatically Handle Family Arguments Over Home Care By Asking These Questions

By Julie McCormick, Co-Owner | January 3, 2019 | Comments Off on Diplomatically Handle Family Arguments Over Home Care By Asking These Questions

Family arguments pop up regularly when home care decisions are being made. One sibling may focus on your parents’ finances while you’re looking at their emotional needs. As disagreements build up, it can lead to arguments that upset your parents.

 

Senior Care in Frederick County VA: Family Argument Tips

Senior Care in Frederick County VA: Family Argument Tips

 

It can take a level of diplomacy to get through discussions about home care. Here are the questions you need to ask and answer honestly in order to stop arguments from getting out of hand.

 

What Do Your Parents Want?

While your emotions are running high, it’s likely that you’re thinking more of your own preferences than your parents. They are the people getting home care services. Their opinions matter the most. While you may want daily caregiver visits, your parents may want days to themselves. As long as it’s safe, make sure you honor their wishes.

You may find your parents do not want you and your siblings providing certain aspects of senior care. If they have to be fed, they don’t want you doing that. They may not want you to be the one helping them into the bath and washing their bodies. They may not like the idea of your helping with incontinence issues. Listen to what they say they prefer.

 

Who is Best Trained to Help?

Your brother wants to handle the family finances because he’s the oldest. Your sister, though barely out of college, has a degree in accounting. Clearly, she’s the better choice.

Make sure you’re pairing family caregivers with the jobs they’re most qualified to do. If your sister doesn’t want the responsibility, you can reassign at that point. Don’t let emotions get in the way of deciding who is best for the job.

 

Are You Overwhelming Someone?

Your sister has a toddler at home. Your kids are both in college. Both of you work. While you may want to split tasks 50/50, you have to think about her pressures as a new mom. She already has her hands full and isn’t in a good place for also caring for senior citizens.

At the same time, you shouldn’t take on more just because you don’t have the same family demands as she does. Try to remember everyone’s need for their personal time while splitting care for an aging parent.

Avoid arguments that stem from someone doing more than another. Don’t let anyone feel overwhelmed. With the help of home care aides, senior care tasks can be divided between siblings and caregivers. Call a home care agency to discuss your family’s situation.

 

If you or an aging loved-one are considering hiring Senior Care in Frederick County, VA, please contact the caring staff at LivinRite Home Care. Call Us Today at (703) 634-9991.

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